Find your feel-good factor by Margie Foster, Inspire Me Women

Isn’t it funny how, as you get older, you start measuring your wellbeing in the most unexpected ways?

Now, I’m not saying I think about sex all the time (although, let’s be honest, it’s a decent hobby), yet I have noticed when I’m feeling good — like really good — sex is often part of the equation.

Not just for the obvious reasons. It’s more about that buzz afterwards. The smile that sneaks across your face. The lightness in your step. The quiet little glow that says, ‘Yep, I’m connected — to myself, to my partner, to life.’

I have even used it as a measure in some of the toughest times. When I was going through cancer, after surgeries, during chemo — I knew I was on the mend when I started thinking about sex again. That was one marker. The other? Wine. The day I could enjoy a glass of red without pulling a face like I’d licked a battery, I knew I was getting back to me.

Everyone’s body is different, of course. What feels amazing for me might not float your boat. That’s exactly the point: find your thing. Your vibe. Try stuff. Mix it up. Whether it’s yoga or hiking or dancing around the lounge in your undies — or sex — just notice what makes you feel alive, and do more of that.

Over the years, I’ve tried many things in the name of health and happiness. I swear by taking Nutrient Rescue every second day. I’ve been on it for about five years now, and aside from one pesky cold recently, I’ve felt pretty invincible. Not just physically, but mentally too — clear, light, grounded. Now, I’m not saying it’s a miracle. It might work for me and not for you. That’s the magic of tuning in to your body — not someone else’s version of ‘wellness’. Just see what fits.

Look, if what fits happens to be sex, then woohoo. Embrace it. Don’t slap a schedule on it. I’m in my mid-50s now, and the idea of putting ‘sex twice a week’ on my to-do list just doesn’t sit right. For me, it’s all
about the vibe. No pressure, no expectations, just going with the flow.

It’s the same philosophy I try to live by in general: wake up each day and think, what might today bring?
Be open to joy, to silliness, to spontaneity. Life’s too short to stick to a formula.

So find your way. Find what makes you tick. When you do, give it a good crack.